When Being Selfish Becomes Essential

I decided that I’m going to use this post to compile a list of ways I can be more selfish and do things for just me. This is the part of the post that will probably take me all day because I’m still trying to work it out but once the list is compiled, I will also have a list of (some) things that I can potentially blog about too! 

Now, how do I make myself make these things happen? I’m not really sure. I’m going to show Mr Me this list so maybe he can ask me what I’ve done every week. I might even print it so I have a visual reminder of what I should be working towards. 

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As Long As I’m Breathing

My life feels like a blur at the moment. I’m not depressed. I’m just at that stage in life where having no real direction or certainty about what I should be doing is scary as fuxk. 

I just know that I want a job. I am not fussy what it is because right now, my main motivation is money. I haven’t found my “calling”.

But as long as I’m still breathing, then I am still here.

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SPECIAL: 1 Year Anniversary Update

Technically, I think I’m coming up to my 1 year anniversary on Emmie Unsigned!! I started blogging in the beginning of June last year and I feel like the year has flown by (probably because I was depressed and on medication for half of it!).

I want to keep blogging at least 3 days a week and stay relevant whilst remaining true to myself. Views matter but writing for release is just as important to me so I want to try and focus less on stats although I will stick with the Weekly Round-Up.

For those who have been following along since I started this blog, I just want to say thank you! I’m no income-earning, sponsored, every day posting blogger but I try to be genuine and organic.

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TW//Self-Harm: When Needing Control Gets Out of Control

Self harm is not the way forward.

It never is. It doesn’t help or change the problem. It is just my way – a wrong way – of dealing with a situation I can’t control. If you google “Help With Self Harm” there are so many websites, support networks and options available to help anyone find a better way to deal with their problems and to learn how to mentally break the habit. I am trying again. I will get past this like I did the last time. This doesn’t have to be a part of my forever story.

This time I realise that my urge to control is managed by something that happens when I lose control – I lose control of my strength, of being able to say no, of my progress, of my anxiety.

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8 Relationship Books You Need To Read For A Happier You

I love reading but it took me many years to get into reading self-help books. I used to get ignorant, annoyed or just plain frustrated because I didn’t like reading about how I was getting things wrong… and the thought of trying to change that habit? Shoot me now. But over the last few years, I’ve slowly opened my mind to self-care and these are some of the top titles on my Kindle bookshelf.

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“A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.” — Honore de Balzac

In relationships (or mine at least), sometimes we have quiet days. Poor communication days. “I Love You So Much” days. Give me a break days. I need your help days. Stupid argument days. “I don’t even know how we have lasted this long” days (rare but not unheard of). Stressed about money days. Can’t keep my hands to myself days. I need some Me time days.

So when Mr Me sent me this message a year after our miscarriage and a month after our rainbow baby was born, it reminded me what it’s all about. What he’s all about. Why I love him.

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