I Owe It To Myself To Be Amazing, So I Am

I’ve been gone for a while and I’m not going to apologise for it. That’s a first. Life is unpredictable and crazy and dramatic which means sometimes we can only do the bare minimum. For a while, I was doing the bare minimum.
I’ve been weaning off of my paroxetine for nearly a month now which isn’t fun but is necessary and I’ve literally just swapped the contraceptive patch for take 2 of the copper coil. Oh, and I have started swimming twice a week and I’m loving it!Image result for swimming meme

I’ve been feeling lost for a while now, unsure of my future and what it holds. I spend too much time indoors, not enough time loving me and I decided to take my friends advice and try a self-help book. I’m a sceptic so believe me when I say, I expect nothing but I have found a lot in the first book I have started reading: I Am That Girl. I have written the below manifesto for myself to keep me focused and successful. I have also started writing in my diary every day and it’s really making a difference to my mood somehow (thanks to my brother for the advice). I recommend this book for anyone feeling a bit lost, unfocused, passionless or a bit “stuck”.
(WARNING: My manifesto is not short so read it only if you have time and you might read something that strikes a chord in you too!)


I Am Me Manifesto

I am always enough. I do enough. I have enough.

I am me. Every day.
I won’t be who others want me to be,
But the real, unedited, beauty-full, perfectly flawed Me.
I will always think for myself.
I will speak my truth and stand my ground.
I believe in a better life and will work hard to make it my reality.

My purpose and passion will drive me
And I accept it’s ability to change and evolve.
I give life to my dreams and to the dreams of my family.
I believe in fate.
Imagine, believe, aspire and achieve. Image result for believe in yourself

I will do things that scare me.
I challenge the odds, I raise the bar, I defy statistics.
I refuse to give up.
I will challenge my passions, ideas and fears.

I will ask the hard questions, try new things and love with my whole heart.
My mistakes and failures make me stronger.
My worth is not validated externally, but is shown in my character.

I will surround myself with strong, motivated people.
Especially people who will say what I don’t want to hear.
I choose authenticity and loyalty over perfection.
I appreciate the small gestures.
My worth is immeasurable and from God.
I will remind myself of that daily.
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I will learn to exercise patience and kindness as often as possible,
Stay vulnerable when I want to close my heart
And practice coexisting with things that make me uncomfortable (like anxiety).
I will set boundaries of respect, work to honour them,
And be willing to edit the roles of people in my life who can’t.

I have walked many miles in heavy, unidentified and unconsidered shoes,
So I will suspend judgement of others as long as humanly possible.
I am learning to laugh more, stress less, let go often and remain positive as much as I can.

I will do my best to relinquish control because it’s fruitless.
My emotions will pass, they do not define me.
My choices and actions do, so I will do my best to make good ones.

I will try to feed my body good, healthy foods
But won’t punish myself for indulging when I do.
I will try to move my body every day.
I rest when I need to but challenge laziness and procrastination.
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I will practice saying “no”
Show myself kindness, compassion and unconditional love.
I am my best friend, I’m proud of Me.

I will protect myself from people who emotionally drain me or expect me to understand their dysfunction.
I have every right in the world to say “no” without feeling guilty.

I share my life’s lessons with others, even the ugly ones with scars.
I will cry when I need to but recognise when I need to get a grip.
I will remember to breathe and be mindful, to find my peace among the drama of everyday life and living.

I will be true to myself, my wants and needs, each and every day.
I will learn to wake up earlier with the purpose of investing time in me, discovering my needs and purposefully fulfilling them.

I owe it to myself to be amazing, so I am. 

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  1. What an inspiring blog post. Having self belief is one of my biggest issues but it sounds like you’ve found something that can really help with that

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      It definitely helps although everyday obviously isn’t perfect xo

  2. Rachel says:

    Well this was definitely an inspirational post to read on a Friday when I am feeling a tad sluggish at my desk x

  3. galaxyink says:

    I don’t think I’ve ever related to a post in my life! Your manifesto is so beautiful! I completely understand feeling swamped, insecurities, and generally trying to decided what I want in my life. Writing in diaries have definitely helped me so much, I hope it can do the same for you too. I’ve never considered reading self-help books, but I will take you word for it and try them out. Who knows, maybe I will find inspiration in them too.

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thank you for your comment – I’m so glad this post was relatable!

      Writing in my diary seems to be making a massive difference for me as it gives me time to reflect on my day, consider the next day and feel more prepared for the morning.

      I always struggled with self-help books because I used to get frustrated with them but I am still reading I Am That Girl – maybe my mind is more open to it now?

      Emmie xo

  4. I think women especially are too hard on themselves. This post is brilliant, we need to look after ourselves and realise how fab we really are

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I couldn’t agree more but I definitely know how hard it is to do so and how easy it is to forget! It’s all about enforcing those beliefs every day until it becomes a habit xo

  5. laugraeva says:

    Love this! That’s a lot of inspirational sentences right there! x

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I think it’s safe to say there should be at least one sentence in that manifesto to work for any and every one!!

      Emmie xo

  6. Every couple of years my mummy goes through a life realignment, her focus shifts, her goals change and she challenges herself. She’s due for another shift and sometimes change is good and positive! Keep moving forwards x good luck

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I’m very glad your mummy has been doing this for some time now – she is a clever mummy! xo

  7. I loved your post, It’s somehow comforting to know that everyone there is struggling in his own way. So inspiring, this post is exactly what we all need to read, you are amazing, I’m amazing, every individual is amazing, thanks for sharing this amazing post 🙂
    I found your little space in the community pool, so glad I did!! !!keep writing and inspire us….
    Please do visit my blog when time permits, thanks in advance and see you there!

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thank you for your comment and I’m so glad you found my post and I’ve found your blog now too!

      Emmie xo

  8. ChelseaMamma says:

    I did something like this a couple of years ago and it is the best thing I have done. You need to live life to the full as you are only here once

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I think it’s entirely too easy to forget how short life is and that this isn’t a trial run LOL!

  9. Great post, you’re right life is unpredictable but doing things for us that make us happy is paramount to our overall life

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      It’s just hard to remember sometimes!

      Emmie xo

  10. Evelina says:

    This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you for inspiring me!

  11. Such a lovely post. So inspiring. I sometime hide away from everything and it gets me down staying indoors, I need a push to get me out that door and start doing things again that I use to love.

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I can’t agree more but it isn’t easy sometimes! Especially now it’s getting colder and darker, time is limited but it’s all about thinking of time as a currency and investing it in something important – ourselves!

      Emmie xo

  12. Those are such powerful statements! Very inspiring 🙂 I too believe in the power of words.

  13. kortkor2 says:

    I loooove your manifesto! It’s nice to know that we all struggle at times and can relate to life being overwhelming and a bit too much!

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I struggle all the time LOL but I am trying to be more than my mental health problems and find ways to focus on the good, the positive and the passionate!

      Emmie xo

  14. I LOVE this, and I really needed to read this right now. I’ve been struggling a lot lately with my mental health, so much going on in life and a lot of challenges ahead, but you’re right. I am amazing, and I deserve to be. Thank you so much. xxx

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I am so happy to hear this is what you needed but I hope you also find a way to focus on you and take some time to get away from all the struggle of daily life and mental health and just love you!

      Emmie xo

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