14 Lessons School Couldn’t Teach Me About Life

Being in my mid-twenties, with two children under 5, a long-term relationship, bills to pay, unsure of my career future, hopeful for a brighter future, going to therapy with plans to go to counselling, more notches on my bedpost than I care to admit and definitely too many drunken nights than I’m able to remember…
I think it’s safe to say there are a lot of things I’ve learnt along the way that school definitely couldn’t have prepared me for!

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These are the top things I would tell myself and anyone else at the tender age of 16 because school just doesn’t prepare you for real life as much as living life actually does:

  1. Men will come and men will go. Let me rectify this: boys will come and boys will go. The man for you will stay once you show him that you’re the female he’s been missing his whole life because men actually need that subtle help and direction only a woman can bring.
  2. You may or may not regret drunk sex later in life but there is only one way to find out. If you do regret it, don’t worry – worse things could happen
  3. Your body will change but that’s okay. Before, you had the body of a girl. Now you have the body of a woman. You can work to make it what you want or you can love it as it is. The choice is always yours.
  4. Periods don’t get better with time and childbirth won’t make you find them any less painful. They suck, full stop. Eat chocolate and bananas, embrace your hot water bottle, dance or do some yoga (I know it sounds like a nightmare but you will feel better after!) and try not to act like a hormonal, drama-prone nutjob. It will cause arguments with the other half which could easily be avoided.mrw period
  5. You don’t need an epidural (because you’re a badass with a higher threshold for pain than you can even imagine – I’ve done it twice naturally) and being induced is something you can handle, even under pressure and with minimal sleep. But childbirth is stressful and painful and will make you cry in frustration and fear and pain.You might want an epidural and all the drugs they can give you. You’re still a badass because you carried a child in your body and got it out. Men can’t ever top that. Trust me!
  6. Some people regret tattoos – I’m not one of those people. They sting a bit but I love my tattoos and definitely will want more. Make tattoos worth the time, money and skin space and it’s unlikely you will regret them because they will always mean something to you!
  7. Your hair needs to be loved (Something that has taken 25 years for me to learn). So does your body. And your mind (especially your mind!). Learn to love your whole self so you can grow, inspire and love others. 
  8. If you’re happy, remember everything that makes you happy – no matter how big or small it is. If you’re not happy, you can be happy. Go to therapy and counselling as many times as you need to find your happy. It will be hard and at times, it will be painful. You will cry even though you really don’t want to. But you will feel much better for it and be able to live a life you’ve craved since forever (or whenever you stopped being happy).
  9. Exercise. Your mind needs it more than your body but your body will thank you too. Do the things you love to make it something you love: swim, boxing & dance workouts do it for me. Jogging, basketball and pilates might do it for you. Take the time to find out and then make it happen as much as you can.
  10. Kids are hard work. I had them before I was mentally ready but they are worth it. Count those beautiful blessings every day because some people don’t get that opportunity; some people lose that opportunity (God Bless all the beautiful babies gone too soon and their parents) and other people are plain evil.
  11. You don’t need somebody else to be valid. You are valid and amazing all by yourself. This counts for jobs too – you don’t need a boss to be amazing. If you are able, go ahead and be your own boss. Never forget that. Never limit yourself.
  12. I know you think you can’t wait to grow up – trust me you can. Enjoy your life free of bills, responsibility and all that adult stuff while you can. Once it’s gone, there’s no going back. Live! 
  13. Money is fun right? Wrong. Money is stressful, hard to come by, not worth enough and doesn’t go to the grave with you. Don’t kill yourself trying to be a millionaire. Don’t drop out of school to get a job unless it’s what you really want. Money makes life 100x more stressful than you ever could imagine so just leave that to your parents while you can.
  14. Have as much fun as possible. It will help you be happy, stay young, eliminate stress and help with your health. Smile, dance, run, play, experience, love and enjoy life. It doesn’t last forever but it can be the best life you ever lived. 

I know some of those points maybe sound a bit negative but they’re not. All of this is said with a smile on my face because writing this post has even helped me to see some of what my life itself is missing and a few things I can definitely work on!

Live, Learn & Never Stop Laughing.

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Comments

  1. Oh number 12 hit home with me, I’m only 22 now but even at this stage I’m already missing my younger years when I didn’t have any responsibilities.

    http://www.thesundaymode.com

  2. Jenni says:

    Lovely post, I had a drug free labour as well which I was happy with x

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I had gas & air with both of mine plus the syntocin to induce me for Mr Mini Me but no epidural etc xx

  3. Sav Chin says:

    This is a great article, really funny/interesting. I think the thing with tattoos is as long as you get them for yourself they never get old.

  4. Claire says:

    Such a great post. I smile at reading this!! I love the part about hair. At school I put them most dreadful spray in bleach in mine, my hair was ruined and it was like elastic!!

  5. Alina says:

    So true about the period pain always being there haha. I also don’t regret my tattoo for sure 🙂 it’s small and thoughtful to me x

    Alina | home & DIY blog UK

  6. Kara AWNTY says:

    I laughed out loud and nodded along with this post, all very true!

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      LOL Thanks for commenting! I laughed when I read it back to myself and thought of where these lessons came from 😉

      Emmie xo

  7. Ha so true especially about periods, they get worse for sure x

  8. pinkoddy says:

    You know what I like about this the most is that there’s parts that just reaffirm that me and my husband are parenting right. Our son is 19 and we are so just letting him live, and have fun right now so that he can just study and enjoy the lack of stress. Great post.

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      It didn’t even occur to me as a parent that this will apply to my children ! But I guess I definitely have a good idea of what my children need to know and grow as teenagers!

      Emmie xo

  9. I agree with several of them but based on my experience I would say: “periods MIGHT get better after birth. Mine did big time!” and “it’s ok to have an epidural during birth don’t stress yourself trying to be a hero” 🙂

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting. I guess everyone is different and I can only go off what I know myself and people around me. I definitely agree with the epidural and pain relief – like I said its fine because you’re still awesome.

      Emmie xo

  10. I love post like this. I definitely learnt these tips on my own too.

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting. I guess school was never meant to prepare us for real life lol

      Emmie xo

  11. Ana De Jesus says:

    I think you have found yourself a new fan-me! I totally agree money is so stressful to deal with and boys will come and go but men will always stay!

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Aww thank you! I’m always happy to have new friends & followers 🙂 I’ve decided I hate money tbh lol

      Emmie xo

  12. 1weekmaryx says:

    I love this post! As a 19 year old, I think I’ve still got a lot to learn about life which school definitely hasn’t taught me – I’m just taking the days as they come! Thanks for sharing Xxx

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      I don’t think we ever stop learning! Thanks for commenting.

      Emmie xo

  13. I agree with you 100 per cent! Number 14 is the best – having fun is the secret to the best life for sure

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting! I think sometimes we need to be more like children because they always have fun. Adults mock them with their “little things please little minds” without realising that we should be mocking ourselves!

      Emmie xo

  14. Dean B says:

    Great lessons! Some of them made me chuckle too 🙂

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Lol I’m glad some made you chuckle as I had fun writing this and remembering lol! Thanks for commenting

      Emmie xo

  15. Cathy Glynn says:

    Fabulous post and I am sure many women can recollect a few of these x

  16. Jordanne Lee says:

    Love it! Schools great and all but you learn a lot more from life in general. Periods definitely DON’T get better haha! #11 is spot on.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting. I couldn’t tell you much of what school taught me aside from the fact it didn’t teach me the skills I needed for adult life LOL!

      Emmie xo

  17. Marie says:

    Such a great post! Really made me think about my life and not taking things for granted 😊❤️

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Aww I love that! Thanks for commenting.

      Emmie xo

  18. Loved this so much, everything we can relate to we agree with so much! There’s something so beautiful about how raw and honest this post is! Thank you for sharing!

    Jessica & James
    http://www.foodandbaker.co.uk

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting! I loved writing this post as well so glad you enjoyed reading it.
      I’ve commented on your blog post as well.

      Emmie xo

  19. Wow! This is one of my most favourite posts I’ve ever read. I LOVE this. X

    1. Unsigned, Emmie says:

      Thanks for commenting! I’ve commented on yours as well.

      Emmie xo

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