17 Things People Need You To Know About Mental Health

Last year, on some of my worst days, people would ask me if I was okay or ask how I was. On those days, I wanted to cry or scream or be asked something that either didn’t make me think about how I felt or genuinely had room for my honest answer!

So, I asked as many people as were willing to answer, what they would honestly answer to one question of their choice during some of their worst mental health moments. These are their answers.

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Can You Imagine?

So many times in a week I will hear someone say they’ve been feeling a bit depressed and it gets to me. Why do we need to use such a serious and big word for something that can be described as a little low? A little off? I’ve been having a few bad days? I’ve been a bit upset about y and z…

Depression is not normal. It’s not easy to come or easy to go. It’s not an exaggeration or a dramatisation of a lesser feeling. It’s a dark and scary place to exist with so many people misunderstanding it’s depth… you can’t just “shake it off”, you can’t just “try to be happy” or “think positive thoughts”.

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The Basic Spoon List (How I Help People To Understand)

After reading The Spoon Theory, I decided that it was probably the best way to get Mr Me to understand, as well as anyone else around me who maybe would want an insight so I decided to create The Basic Spoon List. For 2days, I am going to give Mr Me 12 spoons (possibly 15 if I feel like being genereous) and The Basic Spoon List (see below). And I mean basic because I don’t think it would be fair to give him the list that is actually my life – it’s hard enough for me as it is!

So here’s the list for him and the amount of spoons each action uses with an explanation for most – I hope by seeing my days broken down into such complexity and how much effort each thing takes will help him to understand why I am always tired and rarely want to do a damn thing

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When All I Want To Do Is Sleep…

If you’ve ever been depressed or suffered with anxiety (and I don’t know what else) then you may have experienced chronic fatigue. It is not a joke nor is it fun. You can sleep for hours and wake up tired or you can get a minimal amount of sleep and be tired but the bottom line is – you’re tired constantly.

Every day is a battle with yourself to get shit done, even the most basic shit, like get dressed or do your hair or feed the kids or don’t go back to sleep… no task is easy because it all requires so much effort and willpower that just living is hard work.

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Why I Still Need Medication To Be Me

Have you ever done something that affects your whole life but you don’t even realise until it’s all gone so badly wrong that it’s almost ruined everything?
I thought everything was fine because I was living in a bubble of my own creation called depression and anxiety.
Fast forward to 1st August with my life falling apart around me, my relationship near its end and me lost in a bubble of disinterest and tiredness and confusion. Mr Me has no idea I have been off my meds and feeling completely lost for a good few weeks at least.

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10 Tips To Cope With Anxiety

Mental health, schmental health. For years, mental health problems were treated like folklore or something made up to scare children and adults.

Whatever it is that you’re dealing with, I want you to know you’re not alone, you’re not crazy and you can survive – there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it’s just a longer tunnel for some! In the meantime, while you travel through your personal tunnel looking for that light, here are 10 ways to help you cope in the darkness.

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